Inhibitions of today

"You haven't lived my life, and you don't understand anything about me."


Isn't this a pseudo favorite phrase today?


Do we not use our circumstances as an excuse for our inability, our shortcomings, rather than assuming responsibility for our actions?


Do you have a full time job that doesn't let you chase your dreams? Do you have a huge family to support that doesn't let you do so? Are you physically challenged, and feel defeated thanks to the unfair footing?

Do you feel incompetent because of your upbringing?


Well..I'm not some one who can empathize, but that doesn't mean I can't help.


***Enter the experts***

1. You think chasing your dreams is difficult ? Time to meet Leo Babauta, who does it with a family of eight:


2. You don't suck, but your excuses do --What's your excuse today?

Do you feel this is not pragmatic, time to recapitulate:

3. http://hcdg.org/famous.htm -- Proof of disability

4. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=itEVTrIDWhg&feature=related Disabled, but fully able.

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You don't need more time or money. You just need to have faith in what you believe.

Life is not easy.

But you can make it simple.

Don't let inability become your disability


Change Begins today :) :) :D

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Declare

I want to be a writer one day. That’s what I used to think. Every time I wanted to write, I’d procrastinate.

I’d say it’s for people who can write really well. Turns out that the only people who can write well today are

the ones who began writing despite their faults



And then I began writing. (They say you don’t begin with a conjunction …Well… Let them say so ;) :) )

The first page took an eternity to pen.


There are times when I feel like quitting, taking a break, there are times when my writing gets incoherent. Back then, I didn’t know what kept me going. I didn’t know what helped me resume writing every time I shunned it away.

But I know now. I realized there’s nothing like an aspiring writer. Either you write or you don’t. Either you dream or you don’t. There’s nothing in the middle.


I don’t feel ashamed of calling myself a writer today.

Is that not arrogant?

It’s not. When people ask you how you’re doing, you remember you’re responsible to them. It’s not just about you.


Doesn't matter if it’s fear, responsibility, pain or just the raw desire that get’s you to do what you want. Tell everyone. Do it today. Be accountable to someone (or everyone )


Declare what you are and what you want to be

To yourself.

And then to the world.


Cheers,

Change begins today ;) :) :D

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Don't let pain go in vain

When we lose someone dear, things go blur. Comprehending anything or anyone seems useless. Consoling ourselves might appear pointless.

But do you want to let the pain go in vain?

Do you want to grieve the loss? Or do you want to celebrate their life?

We need to be strong. Become responsible. Do it for others, do it for ourselves.

It's alright to be hurt. It'a alright to fall, to bleed, but you ought to make sure that when you get up, you try and run. Use the pain as the reason not to let go, not the excuse to let go.

Appreciate things better. Make sure you change when there's time. Don't let it happen again.

What you can do when in pain:


1. Pain teaches us humility. Pain helps us realize how precious the things we have are. It helps us respect others, it increases our capacity for good (or evil). Understand pain.

2. When in pain, make it your motivation, let it burn your weaknesses, make it your teacher.

3. Let it help you focus, let it augment your emotional mettle, let it help you introspect. Let it help you take a break. Distractions can be good, don't let them become deviations.

4. Let it help you love, let it help you care, let it help you appreciate.

What to do when you're NOT in pain

Go and make friends  Real ones, the ones who don't need you, and don't just be with them till you need them. Be with them when you don't need them, be there with them at their worst, not just their best.

Help reduce others' pain. Don't just be satisfied with your own happiness. Look into the pain of others around you,be happy to help.  But don't help others for a sense of gratitude, do it because you care, because you want to appreciate what you have, because you want to appreciate them, and appreciate the world. Don't say they were not there for you, when you were not there for them.

Understand the importance of today Try to think, of how it was when it hurt, and understand WHY it's important you don't forget how important today is. Think of how much worse it could be, and make sure you won't later regret not acting today .

Stop saying you're grateful, start behaving like you are. Make a difference today. Rekindle the light that's gone off. In relationships, in work, in life, and in passion. Expect resistance and inertia, be ready to overcome them.

 Smile when you should be angry  Start with smiles.When people dear do something that makes you angry, irritates you, smile,and smile from within. Give them smiles if you're embarrassed to admit you care to their face. If you can't do it while things are heated make sure you do it later. Just because they understand it doesn't mean they don't need reassurance.

Helping those in pain:

Be there even if you don't understand  Be realistic. It's impossible to understand pain unless you've experienced it. Stop saying you understand when you don't .Acknowledge your inability to understand( Even if you don't say it out loud). Be there for them, despite it. Don't run.

Give strength not pain  Don't let tears go to waste. Give people strength. Talk about what they can do, or how you can help. Don't preach. Don't inquire into it in a way it's painful. Most importantly, don't break while helping others (or at  least try not breaking).

Keep reaching out to them:  Try to be part of their pain. Call them. Meet them. Make sure you're not being irritating. Show that you care, but don't interfere if they don't want to share. Don't intrude.

Stop trying to augment or belittle pain  Stop trying to project that it's a great loss. Mention and let go, don't nag. Don't keep reminding them while you console them. Also, don't try to make it look as if it's not a big deal, and even if it is, show how it can be overcome, not overlooked.

What not to do when helping others:


Stop underestimating pain: Try to imagine how bad things can get. Don't generalize. When helping others, don't say it happens to everyone if it doesn't. Help them recover, not just realize.

Don't object when they enjoy instead of being in grief  There's nothing wrong in enjoying even when in pain, even if it's against beliefs, people's happiness is more important than customs and deep rooted beliefs.

Don't keep advising,listen Give advice if and when it's needed. But don't cut the strings when it's not. Listen. Care. Help them conquer hurdles without directly suggesting how.


Change begins now, so make a difference today!!

Cheers and smiles,

See ya around :) :) :D

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The gift of giving

When we help others do something, we feel content. We help serve a higher purpose. Yet we are afraid of giving. Why is it so?

Do you feel people come to you only when they are in need?

Do they not try to give back to you in their own small way?

They do. They don't, or some times some of us fail to appreciate it.

Why do people fail at giving, or at respecting those who give

People are worried about their life, their problems, their future.

Some lack the time, some the concern.

A few lack the enthusiasm, and a few lack understanding of the difference it can make

How to make sure you give back to those who made a difference:

Look into your life, retrospect.

Have you done justice to those who made it beautiful? Those who undeniably stand by you without expecting anything in return?

Call them now, thank them today.Thank them again. If you feel embarrassed in doing so explicitly, just tell them how they made a difference,how they help you smile.

Or just greet them, share your thoughts, try and alleviate their pain, their concern, be their for them, make them a part of your happiness, for they helped you in plight. Don't just do this once do this again. And again. Help keep relationships warm (More on this later ;) )

 Apologize, Connect, Renew, Rejuvenate, don't let go, don't take them for granted ( Well..lots more later ;))

Why it makes sense to give anyway :

Don't think of people as travelers who take shade from you, the tree.

Think about the candle that illuminates the darkest of places. It takes darkness head on.

When you are the light, you need not fear darkness. The darkness in people, the darkness in ignorance. 

In absence of light, darkness comes into play. You need not explain to people why they need you. They realize it in the absence of your advice.

But we must first understand the darkness caused by our own shadow. We must understand our craving for recognition, for appreciation.

How to appreciate the gift even better

Give away something you need, something you cherish. 

There is no virtue in giving away what you don't treasure.

Treasure the innocent bliss that makes its way to you when you do this. This is more profound to the soul than the recognition you seek , understand it, feel it, and respect it.

Do not belittle the power bestowed upon you, this gift of giving.

Give, and help other give.

Cheers and smiles :) :D

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Trust and compromises

Trust is the life-blood of relationships. An insecure person cannot trust anyone. Trust takes courage. Trust takes faith.

Relationships make life beautiful beautiful. Sadly, not all relationships are meant to be.When you pour your heart and soul in relationship, how do you stand by when differences tear it apart? Why let go of something really beautiful?Is it wrong to be selfless?

 No. So let go of the selfish desire not to let go. Some times, letting go is the only way to hold on. If the person doesn't care, then perhaps it's better to realize they don't deserve you.

But then we ask ourselves, is it wrong to adjust eleven out of ten times ( :X :X), to be understanding? Not really, someone's gotta be more understanding.

Adjustment is not compromise. Understanding is not letting someone take undue advantage of you. From another vantage point, understanding and adjustment help you let go of ego, help you be more tolerant to discord. Compromise forces to you let go of self-respect.

Adjust. Understand. Be flexible. Don't compromise.Live with pride, not ego. (More on this later ;) )

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Because YOU matter to me

Each and every one of us is special, but what is it that stops us from being ground-shattering fantastic??

Because we make it about ourselves. What's the use of having a dream which doesn't include everyone..everything?

So this is my request to you. Help me understand how I can help the world.

Tell me what you think about the way I write. Tell me what you want me to write about. Tell me how it can be better.

If you don't like it let me know why. If you think it's childish, I request you NOT to refrain from saying so straight up. If you think it's foolish tell me so.

Let's create something beautiful. I write because I must, because I can't stop, but it's your support that gives me the solidarity to write better, with more vigor, and with greater conviction. Your comments, irrespective of the nature matter to me, because everyone matters, everything is important.

Kindly leave your comments on this page, on fb or email it to emperor.k@gmail.com ,  

Let's help ourselves dream. Let's create something that makes a difference.

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Growing up and the myth of seriousness

It is said childhood never comes again, but still the tall talks of growing up keep floating in the air. When we were children, we were free from the burden of jobs, package race, status, contacts, etc, but then, most of us chose to grow up. I can't help but ask myself:

Does growing up mean not enjoying what we could when we were kids?

Does it mean we ought enjoy what others expect us to, and  not what we actually do?

Does it mean acquiring clout takes precedence over acquiring friends?

Or does it mean putting up a serious face, and distance ourselves from pleasures people consider naive?

    Life is really important. Is it not but natural to place survival and acceptance above joy? It is.

That's where being sincere comes in. Sincerity is putting your heart and soul into something, and making it happen, even if you have to do so just because it leads to something more important, and by itself may not be that important. It's about loving what you do, when the converse is not immediately feasible. It's about being carefree, but never careless.
                             
                                                                                                                                            Seriousness is something different, it is realizing that you need to do something, but rather than just doing it, making others believe by way of expression and appearance, rather than more so by action, that it's important. It's about telling people how hard it is rather than realizing the simplicity in things.

Doing math because you fear the test Monday, and not going out on the weekend, even though you know you won't begin studying till Sunday late evening is serious. Sitting in class despite it being uninteresting is being serious.

                Being motivated to study by the test on Monday is sincere. Finishing study by Sunday morning, because you care, is sincere, going for an early movie on Sunday night is sincere. Bunking class because you learn nothing, but being at home to study that subject whole day, is sincere.

                                                                                                      Not all of us do what we love, but it is more than just possible, to love what we do. We can think of the benefits, the purpose, the reasons for putting up with it in the first place, rather than waiting for it to finish and keep looking at the clock. We can start doing what we love in small steps today, so that we won't have to be stuck with loving what we do tomorrow.

Life is too precious to be taken seriously.

But what about growing up?

Well....

Do parents not become children when they play with their kids?

Do fully grown Indian cricket fans not jump in joy when Sachin hits a century?

Do we not really get the best out of life, when we are children?

                                 So should we break the shackles that tie us down? Not really, just leave yourself lots of slack. Having feet on ground, and something to hold on to is important.

So should we try to grow up at all??

Well I believe we shouldn't even try.

I say, Don't grow up, grow responsible. Never let go of the child in you.

Cheers and smiles :) :) :D ,
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Greed leads to ruin?? Eh.. Does, it??

Understanding greed:
They say greed is bad. Greed brings ruin. If so, then should not the world's progress be inversely related to greed? Our understanding can deepen if we look at greed from various perspectives, and try to find our own answers to questions like these:

When parents look after their children, they expect their, love, kindness and gratitude in return, is this greed?

Does the thirst, the zeal, the greed for knowledge not form the foundation stone of all learning?

Does greed not motivate people to improve, to make the world more competitive?

When someone offers you advice, does not their expectation for appreciation equal greed?

When you love someone with everything you've got, is it greedy to expect them to do the same?


      If you've found your answers to these, then, another one : Is greed good? The answer to all of these is simple: Greed might not be good, but is one of the inseparable flaws of human nature, something you need to accept, and deal with. Then what of the scriptures? Do they challenge your understanding from the previous few lines?
             Again, the answer is simple, the scriptures, with little doubt are the guiding light to a better world, but before we talk of the scriptures, should we not try and be worthy of what they preach? What if our understanding of the scriptures is flawed? Should we not try and follow what they mean, rather than what they say?
       If you indeed feel that you need to improve your understanding of the same, then you need to deal more amicably, towards a solution rather than fighting the problem.

         I shall share my understanding,and approach I believe in, in the lines that follow:

Dealing with people, and greed:


1. The first thing to do, is that one must try and appreciate people for what they are, not what they want people to be. The world is imperfect, and that is why it's beautiful. It is important to cherish people because of their faults, not despite them.

2. Should you try and kill greed? No. Subordinate it to greater good, a higher impulse, to what your heart truly wants rather than what the world impresses on it. Would it be possible to be really rich, without being greedy? Maybe not, but it definitely cannot happen because of it, for instance, it was Sir Richard Branson's love of adventure, and risk taking attitude that enabled him to create the Virgin empire, it was J.K. Rowling's understanding of human nature, her great struggle that enabled her to create her international sensation. It was not their greed. In simple words: Money is a terrific slave, a good servant, but a terrible master. Make it a small part of your vision,yes, small.

3. How do you inspire and work your subordinates who have the veil of greed over their eyes? Inspire innovation. Inspire them to create something new, reward their efforts, and value their insights, with appreciation, not just with monetary incentives. Allow them some freedom, help them challenges themselves, to take risks and responsibility, do not merely delegate these, do not lay the challenges down yourself, all the time.

Impressing the right perspective onto oneself:

Is selflessness non-existent? May be, may be not. When you think of Mother Teresa, does not smart talk fail to explain her efforts, her way of life?

Should you try and be selfless, beyond doubt? Not really, just stop being arrogant, self-centered and selfish.
There is a great grey area between the extremes, long enough to inspire a life of successful endeavor.

So, should one be greedy? Again, my favorite phrase, HELL NO!! But I can't help quote, "Stay hungry, stay foolish" ;) :D

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