How most of us land up in okay:
When I was a kid I was taught to dream, to believe that everything under the sun was in reach.As I grew older, I was taught dreamers are of little value in this world, to survive, you gotta be in the race. In 10th grade, I was told the boards would determine my future, in twelfth, again the same, and in grad school, I was taught that a good GPA would mean a glorious life.
Today I know better than ever, this isn't very true, in fact, not true at all. I ask myself at times, why bother? Life's OK today, and I can always pursue my dreams later. Also, everybody does it, or at least most do, and the world doesn't lie, does it? But then I realize,
**When things are bad, you learn about life, learn who your friends are, you sometimes even get closer to your loved ones, and you have life changing experiences. It can be really tough, it hurts, a lot, but with enough faith you can be happy, understand that pain can be good, and it's not like this by choice.
**When things go really well, you are cheerful, happy, and can spread this bliss to others, or at worst, blow it up and learn to value what you have and change.
Here comes the shocker:
** When you're okay, you learn nothing. You delude yourself into thinking you're happy, measure yourself by others' standards, redefine your happiness, associate easy with pragmatic, and forget how to dream. You push away what your dreams farther than you can imagine and throw away the most valuable thing in the world- time.
Okay is when you know you're not happy, but say you are, not to others, but to yourself. It's when you know you're wasting time, but continue to do so because it doesn't hurt much yet. It's when you wait for the pain to become unbearable before you admit to being in the state of mind you are. Last but not the least, it's to be in this state because most of the world is.
How to identify if you're suffering from okay:
You always know when you're "okay". Because it's you can't be "okay" unless you choose to be. The greatest strength of okay is that is fools you into thinking you're not in this state, so how do you identify it? How do you know you're not lying? Deep down, inside, you always know, but how to make sure you bring it to the surface. Here are a few indicators of okay:
1. When someone asks you if you're doing good,and you reply good, your expressions betray you, when your hands and shoulders, don't indicate what your words do, your eyes scream "Hell NO", or try to find an excuse not to look into the eyes of the person asking.
2.When you get up in the morning, and are NOT excited or anxious about work. ('Cause when it's bad you're definitely anxious or be real calm, but are never "okay", and when it's good you're cheerful and excited.)
3.When you need to find reasons, to explain to yourself you're happy.When it just doesn't darn feel right.
4. When you're bored too many times a day( and for a sizable amount of time, not like 15 seconds ;) )
5. If everything is going too well, it means you're definitely doing something wrong. It's time to start the slow tweaking, to take more risks, to go from good to great, and even higher.
How to get out of okay:
1.When things are going wrong, or even not exactly how you want them to, admit they are, if not to others, at least to yourself. Admit things are going bad, and put your best effort to change that, and even if you don't blow away the circumstances, you'll be happy, because you do what's your heart tells you to.
2. Think of the most important thing in your life, what keeps you going, and be grateful for that, and start repaying the ones responsible.
3. Dream big, reallllllyy big, but dream as what you are, not as someone else, at least for too long, It's time to stop dreaming and envisioning.
4. Believe in yourself, let go of the inhibitions, have faith, because faith is the gift, not the way to it.
Last but not the least, don't confuse okay with a sublime state of bliss, wherein you're doing exactly what you should, and without good reason you're happy. It's alright to be happy without a reason, because you're meant to be happy, to cherish each and every moment of you're existence. ( Credit for this realization goes to Guruji, Pt Sri Sri Ravi Shankar,more @ http://srisriravishankar.org/ )
In other words, sometimes you don't need a reason, but if you need to convince yourself again and again, than probably there's trouble.
In a nutshell: bad is good, good is great, and okay is bad, so I hope you're not okay ;)
Cheers and smiles, see you around everyone :) :) :D
When I was a kid I was taught to dream, to believe that everything under the sun was in reach.As I grew older, I was taught dreamers are of little value in this world, to survive, you gotta be in the race. In 10th grade, I was told the boards would determine my future, in twelfth, again the same, and in grad school, I was taught that a good GPA would mean a glorious life.
Today I know better than ever, this isn't very true, in fact, not true at all. I ask myself at times, why bother? Life's OK today, and I can always pursue my dreams later. Also, everybody does it, or at least most do, and the world doesn't lie, does it? But then I realize,
**When things are bad, you learn about life, learn who your friends are, you sometimes even get closer to your loved ones, and you have life changing experiences. It can be really tough, it hurts, a lot, but with enough faith you can be happy, understand that pain can be good, and it's not like this by choice.
**When things go really well, you are cheerful, happy, and can spread this bliss to others, or at worst, blow it up and learn to value what you have and change.
Here comes the shocker:
** When you're okay, you learn nothing. You delude yourself into thinking you're happy, measure yourself by others' standards, redefine your happiness, associate easy with pragmatic, and forget how to dream. You push away what your dreams farther than you can imagine and throw away the most valuable thing in the world- time.
Okay is when you know you're not happy, but say you are, not to others, but to yourself. It's when you know you're wasting time, but continue to do so because it doesn't hurt much yet. It's when you wait for the pain to become unbearable before you admit to being in the state of mind you are. Last but not the least, it's to be in this state because most of the world is.
How to identify if you're suffering from okay:
You always know when you're "okay". Because it's you can't be "okay" unless you choose to be. The greatest strength of okay is that is fools you into thinking you're not in this state, so how do you identify it? How do you know you're not lying? Deep down, inside, you always know, but how to make sure you bring it to the surface. Here are a few indicators of okay:
1. When someone asks you if you're doing good,and you reply good, your expressions betray you, when your hands and shoulders, don't indicate what your words do, your eyes scream "Hell NO", or try to find an excuse not to look into the eyes of the person asking.
2.When you get up in the morning, and are NOT excited or anxious about work. ('Cause when it's bad you're definitely anxious or be real calm, but are never "okay", and when it's good you're cheerful and excited.)
3.When you need to find reasons, to explain to yourself you're happy.When it just doesn't darn feel right.
4. When you're bored too many times a day( and for a sizable amount of time, not like 15 seconds ;) )
5. If everything is going too well, it means you're definitely doing something wrong. It's time to start the slow tweaking, to take more risks, to go from good to great, and even higher.
How to get out of okay:
1.When things are going wrong, or even not exactly how you want them to, admit they are, if not to others, at least to yourself. Admit things are going bad, and put your best effort to change that, and even if you don't blow away the circumstances, you'll be happy, because you do what's your heart tells you to.
2. Think of the most important thing in your life, what keeps you going, and be grateful for that, and start repaying the ones responsible.
3. Dream big, reallllllyy big, but dream as what you are, not as someone else, at least for too long, It's time to stop dreaming and envisioning.
4. Believe in yourself, let go of the inhibitions, have faith, because faith is the gift, not the way to it.
Last but not the least, don't confuse okay with a sublime state of bliss, wherein you're doing exactly what you should, and without good reason you're happy. It's alright to be happy without a reason, because you're meant to be happy, to cherish each and every moment of you're existence. ( Credit for this realization goes to Guruji, Pt Sri Sri Ravi Shankar,more @ http://srisriravishankar.org/ )
In other words, sometimes you don't need a reason, but if you need to convince yourself again and again, than probably there's trouble.
In a nutshell: bad is good, good is great, and okay is bad, so I hope you're not okay ;)
Cheers and smiles, see you around everyone :) :) :D
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